rayyan & mommy ready to go for outing..
hello there ~
entry kali nih,khas ditujukan buat my fren,Ilyana and baby Hakimi.untuk menjawab kemusykilan auntie Ilyana berkenaan breastfeeding nih,mommy buat dlm bentuk entry terus.alang2 nk cerita,biar citer dr A sampai Z..insyaAllah,mommy cuba keluarkan sebanyak mana info yg bole dikongsi bersama2 dgn mommies yg lain.kalau ada yg nak menambah or nk memberi nasihat,sangat2 dialu2kan..untuk kongsian bersama.harapnya dapat la membantu sikit2..
-amaran- entry kali nih pjg lebar..feel free to skip any unnecessary part.
soredewa...hehehe
kisah 1 : an hour after delivery
after the nurses cleaned you up,they brought you to me for our 1st breastfeeding session.i can't really describe into words how it really felt..it was amazing that i actually feeding someone who just arrived into the world. you have no problems sucking the milk.my brea*t was full and i can't wait to let u taste it.i was amazed on how u fed urself and watching u move ur petit lips with ur eyes shut close.. i feel blessed.i can feel the milk flowing out into u for the 1st time..it was great.whilst in the inside,my inner part felt like an undergoing construction.they were trying to mend the damages after the delivery process we've been through.i can vividly remember the feeling of something moving in my tummy while breasfeeding u the first time...i also remember the feeling when the doctors "cleaned" me up after the loooonnnggg pushes...yeah, 3 doctors were there while waiting for u to come out... well, prior to the problem during the delivery.allow me just skip that part :)
we stayed overnight at the hospital.the 1st night i spent with u was a horrible one,i must say...u were crying like all night long.. i have no idea why..i was afraid and worried.as a first time mother,i don't know what i should do to sooth u.. i tried bf, dukung sambil pujuk2, tepuk2, but nothing works.. i felt like a loser.i cried along with you.... i started thinking if there was something wrong with you. sbb baby kat katil depan tu takde pulak nangis2 mcm rayyan. i can't sleep eventhough i was damned tired from the delivery process that afternoon..haven't got the chance to sleep since it over.but i remember,tertido sambil bersandar while holding u in both my arms..tersenggut2.. almost slipped u off from my hands.. u were silent for a while n then u continue crying...the same thing happened over and again..all night long.and i keep on hoping the sun will show itself earlier than usual as i can't take it on my own anymore... i want ur daddy asap... can't handle u alone! then,the nurse came to check on us when she heard u cried..i told her i was too tired n i really need to sleep..she took u away and i just let myself to sleep.. after 2hours of good sleep, i woke up and found that u were fast asleep in the cradle.. i'm just glad that it was already 7am .. hehehe. ur dad arrived at 8.we were discharged from the hospital at 12noon.. i'm happy to go home! (with a baby,at last!!)
kisah 2 : a few days after delivery
the bf process was going well the first few days.. during nights u still woke up and cried.. i don't get it.sampaikan ada yg kata kena sawan tangis laa..apa laa..mcm2 la tanggapan waktu tu. as for me, i started feeling some sort of depression..i guess, that's what they called postnatal depression? i didn't have a decent sleep. i envy org lain dlm rumah who didn't have to wake up in the middle of the night to take care of you...daddy suffered the same prob..kesian dia..dah la esoknya nk bgn pg gi keje.. i miss being able to sleep all through the night without all the crying and bf things.. but, i keep on motivating myself..try to forget about my own comfort and focusing on ur needs.. i worked hard to understand you..well,after all we've known each other for a few days...
until one day,( i didn't exactly remember when) i started feeling a tender sore on my left breast..tiba2 jer.rasa sakit mencucuk2..brea*t rasa tegang and keras. sakitnyer,Subhanallah.. badan menggigil2 sampai gigi ikut sekali terketar2. tak pernah demam macam tu sekali.i thought i was having a normal fever. but then, my MIL said i might suffer from bengkak brea*t. yeah..i guess so..kalau tak,xkan la kat bhgn tu sakit sgt2.after that,i tried soooo many2 things to ease the pain.macam2 petua la mommy tried.i went searching the net for some quick remedies other than pills...
masa tu,what i did;
-tuam tempat yg sakit tu dgn tuala yg direndam dgn air suam..tuam byk kali..before n after bf mmg wajib.
-ambil papan guasar( bukan papan buat perabut tu tau.. papan nih buat dr tanduk kerbau n dibentuk mcm bentuk papan kecik dlm saiz 3jari camtu) and guasar @ lurut kat bhgn yg dah dituam tu.lurut arah ke nipp*e...jgn tekan kuat2 sgt..
-minum air suam preferably air panas byk2.kalau ada org kata,org berpantang tak bole minum air byk2..well, let me say what i think..--> karut! (we need more water as we're bf.. the more u drink the better it is to stimulate milk for the baby)
-pernah juga try ambil daun kobis n letak dekat brea*t yg sakit tu..helps relief the sore.petua nih dpt dr internet.. :)
-pam susu..nasib baik dah beli siap2 pam before bersalin.mmg niat nk fully bf tu membara2 dr sejak awal pregnancy..so,mmg dah buat segala mak nenek preparation utk sediakan diri ke arah mencapai target tu.cari pump yg senang nk guna,xper la mahal sikit.invest beli pump yg berkualiti.kalau ikutkan,harga fm skg nih pon bukan murah2..setin dlm rm50++.setakat nih pakai yg avent tu jer..beli dlm rm400.guna tiap2 hari,masih tahan lagi sampai skg.sebaya rayyan dah..
actually,bila brea*t tegang or mengeras, maknanyer susu yg ada dlm tu tak efficiently keluar.sbb tu la,susu yg terhasil kemudiannyer memenuhi ruang sampai kita rasa brea*t mcm nk pecah..heheh.jadinyer,kena la kita keluarkan susu tu ikut sebanyak yg bole..buat timing.. kena buat jadual sendiri..every berapa hours kena pump..
-the most important thing and i can put this as the no1 rule in bf is that mothers should breastfeed more frequently.walaupun sakit tu mcm kena tusuk duri bila baby hisap, kena tahan! i remember crying sambil bf rayyan.tak kisah dah org lain nk kata apa..sakitttt woo!! rayyan syiok jer menyusu,mommy nangis2 bg rayyan susu..klaka pulak bila igt2 balik.tambahan pulak,masa minggu ke-2 tu rayyan kena jaundice. i have to increase the bf session to once in every 2hours. utk baby yg kena jaundice nih,kena special care..kena lebih kerap menyusu..walaupun rayyan tido pengsan..geletek2,tarik2 ibu jari kaki dia,cubit2 manja pipi dia pon dia tak layan..nyenyak jer..tp mommy tetap tala brea*t kat mulut dia..automatic dia sedar n hisap..maybe sbb rayyan dah kenal bau badan mommy kot.so sambil tido pon bole menyusu..sakit tu,hmmm..pejam mata tahan jerlaa..
kisah 3 : a few weeks after delivery
alhamdulillah, after a few weeks struggling with sleepless nights and bf trouble..sakit semakin surut..tekanan pon berkurang.dah boleh biasakan diri dgn rutin bf dan jadual mengepam.walaupun,pernah sekali ummi try bagi fm(formula milk) kat rayyan masa mommy demam tu,tp rayyan tak nk minum.pandai rayyan...that's my boy!! huhuhu
memang tidak dinafikan,awal2 sessi mengepam tu,xbyk susu yg keluar..infact masa first time pam tu..cuma beberapa titik jer dapat dalam masa sejam.huhuh...tu yg kadang2 buat diri rasa demotivated.tambahan bila ada suara2 disekeliling yg suruh bg fm.lagi la tension.mmg menduga kesabaran sebagai seorang ibu.rasa tercabar bila org lain kata kita xmampu nk kenyangkan anak sendiri dgn susu terbaik yg kita sendiri boleh produce.xpayah nk susah2 beli,free of charge lagi.cuma usaha jer perlu lebih..luckily,ur daddy really understand me and helps me along the way..memberi semangat dan menjadi tpt mengadu.. ok,berbalik kepada topik mengepam td.speaking from my experience,mula2 mmg susu susah nk keluar sbb dia tak biasa lagi..pulak tu,rayyan hisap pon bukan byk mana walhal susu yg terhasil tu sbnrnya byk.so,mommy kerapkan sesi mengepam..masa minggu ke-2 tu,dah mula pam.walaupun satu sessi tu,yg keluar xsampai setengah oz pon.tetap teruskan. masa tu,nilai setitik air susu tu bg mommy sgt2 berharga.walaupun setitik..sgt bercermat masa pam,jgn sampai tumpah atau meleleh..
rutin mengepam 1st few weeks->
-biasanya selepas bf rayyan,mommy akan terus pam..
-so,kalau every 2hours bf rayyan..rasanyer selang 2kali bf camtu(4jam sekali) pam lagi.
-mlm pulak,sebelum mommy masuk tidur mesti pam supaya sewaktu tidur tu,brea*t will stimulate more milk for the next day supply
-tgh mlm around 3~4am..bgn utk pam lagi..
-selepas mandi pagi,pam lagi
kemudian,amalkan petua2 utk bykkan susu.macam2 petua ada kalau rajin surfe.tp bukan semua petua tu sesuai tau..yg mengarut tu xyah la ikut.click here to view some of them..dulu,mommy amalkan minum horlicks @ milo campur dgn oats waktu breakfast, makan sayur petola,kobis n sayur2 yg bole bykkan susu tu..minum air mata kucing(buat sendiri better), makan nasi at least 1x sehari..selain tu,mommy juga makan spirulina as usual..mmg dah consume spirulina since sblm pregnant..and being told that spirulina juga bole bantu tambah susu. and jgn lupa amalkan minum air suam sebelum n selepas bf @ pump.
alhamdulillah,selepas seminggu demam dah surut n brea*t mommy pon dah ok.semua urusan bf dipermudahkan..waktu dalam pantang,susu yg mommy pam..mommy buat stock..sehari dlm sekali @ 2x jer bagi dlm botol sbb nk biasakan rayyan dgn botol susu.sebagai persediaan bila mommy dah masuk kerja nnti.sebab certain babies,kalau tak dilatih dr awal,tak nk menyusu from bottles..payah pulak nnti..so,better start from the beginning.. masa usia rayyan 2weeks lagi mommy dah ajar minum breast milk from bottle.
kisah 4 : a month after delivery
masa nih,boleh kata dah biasa dgn bf.sampaikan keluar pergi shopping pon angkut sekali pam avent tu..atuk abah tegur,mommy buat tak paham jer..yerla,zaman2 derang mana ada tradisi pam2 nih..bg derang, sumbat jer botol habis citer..but not me.set pam tu macam dah jadi besfren.dlm kereta pon bole mengepam..bak kata org,nak seribu daya...xnak seribu dalih..jadi,jangan cari alasan..carilah penyelesaian utk capai apa yg kita mahukan...ehehhe.begitu juga bf..mommy xkesah pon bf in public..asalkan tak terselak2 nmpk aurat n ada kain utk cover masa bf..for me,no problem at all..apa salahnyer nk bg anak kenyang..kalau dah melalak kang,pandang2 pulak kata tak pandai jaga anak.. buat2 xpaham jer kalau ada yg pandang2 mcm org jakun tuh..kita xsusahkan org lain.. betul tak
kisah 5 : 2 months after delivery
masa nih,stock utk breast milk(bm) rayyan mmg dah penuh peti ais,sampai ummi dah bising xde tpt nk letak ikan,ayam..heheh.mommy buat taktau jer..asalkan rayyan punya kebajikan terjaga.hihi..ala,ikan tu xyah buat stock takpe,beli jer hari2..lagi fresh.kan2? bila dah abis pantang,kekerapan mengepam pon berkurangan sbb rayyan makin kuat menyusu n mommy hanya mengepam 4kali jer sehari.tp masih lagi bgn tgh2 mlm,pasang pam,pam dlm 20mins,basuh pam,buat stock sume..masa nih,sekali pam boleh dapat sampai 8oz..esp waktu pagi lps bgn tido.the feelings? hmm..mcm mana nk kata ek,seronok sgt2 bila tgk botol susu tu makin lama makin penuh dgn susu... jadi makin bersemangat nk terus dptkan lebih lagi..heheh
kisah 6 : 3months after delivery
bila dah masuk kerja,jadual mengepam pon bertukar sikit.of course i need to make a few adjustment to bring in my pumping routine into my daily work schedule.maa ne,xde la susah sgt pon sbb dah biasa 2bulan dok mengepam kat rumah..cuma nak cari port sembunyikan diri waktu tu jer la..i heard there are offices yg provide place utk working mommies yg bf utk mengepam.sgt jeles! nak tau mommy pam ka mana? u might be shocked... mommy pam kat dlm toilet! i know.. but i can't find any other place.pernah ke surau utk pam..tp surau jauh n ada ramai student yg selalu lepak2 dlm tu..sgt uncomfortable.
hahh,nih satu lagi..utk dptkan flow yg baik waktu pam,mommies kena relax n think about nice things..what better things to think about when u're expressing ur milk other than ur baby right? huhuh..so,smbil pam tu igt2 rayyan kat umah..tgh buat apa..dah makan ke blom? main dgn sape? dah pandai buat apa.. hari nih nk balik awal jumpa rayyan...macam2 laa..mmg emotion mothers sgt effect the milk supply..ada hari tu,moody satu hari..bekalan susu terus merudum.kalau usually pam kat ofis 2kali total bole dapat dlm 14oz.. masa tu dpt dlm 8jer.. so,mommies! think positive,ok?
ok,back to the story..actually toilet tpt mommy pam tu,toilet duduk yg mmg dah xdigunakan.makcik cleaner buat ala2 stor n kitorang buat tpt amek air smyg.for me,ok jer la..lagipun the milk directly masuk dlm bottle n lps dah siap terus tutup.i think it's safer n better than to jeopardise my milk supply dgn ketidakselesaan.dlm tu mmg comfortable jer..cumanyer,bila mommy masuk situ org2 yg nk amek wudu' kena tunggu mommy siap laa..hehehe.. by that time,satu sesi cuma amek masa 20mins tops.xde la lama sgt.almaklumla,dah pro!
lps tu,basuh pam.i brought along my own sabun n span.khas utk basuh pam sahaja.simpan kat ofis.bm yg dah dipam pulak,sementara nk tunggu balik,mommy simpan dlm fridge kat ofis..so far,selamat xde lagi org sibuk2 tanya bagai or worst terminum..hahah..simpan dlm botol susu sono mama ;p tp bila dah ada geng mengepam kat ofis xlama lps tu,kena la letak tanda or anything.takut salah amek pulak.tp botol brand lain2..xrisau sgt. bila nk balik,amek masuk dlm cooler bag..bila sampai rumah terus masuk fridge balik..bukan freezer yer.
bila dah mula kerja,utk stock mommy amek dr susu yg pam kat rumah.susu yg pam kat ofis mommy buat stok rayyan for the next day.sbb bm nih,once dah letak kat fridge bghn bawah,xbole masuk beku.. itu yg mommy belajar laa.. dkt fridge bawah bole tahan 3hari..kalau kat tpt beku tu bole tahan sampai 3bulan kalau xsilap.. ke 2bln ek? lebih kurang camtu la.magik kan susu ibu? :D
kisah 7 : 1 year later
i'm still breastfeeding..alhamdulillah..cuma masa rayyan genap umur setahun,we flew back to japan for 2months..so,sepanjang kat jpn mommy malas nk mengepam sbb dah duduk berkepit dgn rayyan 24/7..sama jer..buat stock pon xguna..nnti terbuang.so,what i did was..i bf him directly.rutin yg sama cuma bg direct...utk kekalkan penghasilan susu..tp takut juga,bila balik msia nnti xboleh nk kumpul susu balik.sbb target nk fully bf sampai umur rayyan 2thn.
alhamdulillah,bila balik msia.susu masih ada..cuma kena work hard sikit sbb nk bg signal kat breas*t to get back on track mcm dulu dan berusaha gigih utk buat balik stock susu.on the other hand,rayyan pulak dah kurang menyusu.maybe sbb dia dah dapat mkn kot.btw,rayyan mula makan solid food sejak umur 6months...masa awal2 tu mmg bubur mcm2 resepi laa..tp by 1year old nih,xyah cite la.apa kami makan,dia pon mkn...so far,rayyan xde alahan dgn foods...cuma xbole mkn yg dlm saiz besar2 sbb dia xde gigi lagi.. ;p
kisah 8 : now
frekuensi pam makin berkurang.no more stay up at 3am,no more pumping at the office.. skg nih,satu hari pam cuma sekali jer..bila balik keje.bila balik kerja,brea*t mmg tgh full... lebih relax n no more pressure..setakat nih,bekalan susu masih mencukupi utk rayyan.kadang2 kalau tak cukup tu,rayyan survive dgn milo O atau vitagen. nak juga try bagi rayyan berjinak2 dgn fresh milk.. insyaAllah,soon!
kesimpulan;
alhamdulillah..mommy berjaya mengharungi saat2 susah dan senang utk betul2 berjaya dlm bf.i don't know if this can be call as a victory but i'm proud of myself to have been through all those rough times..of course with the support from ur daddy and people around me..i'm also grateful to those people who looked down on me coz they are the trigger that makes me stronger than i ever thought i could be.terima kasih sgt2 utk info2 dr mommies lain yg mommy xpernah kenal secara tidak langsung melalui alam siber.nasihat dan pengalaman yg dikongsi sgt byk membantu mommy utk survive sehingga ke hari ni.
jgn terpengaruh dgn alasan2 yg merendahkn motivasi kita; such as
-badan kecik,brea*t kecik..sbb tu susu xde sgt.. -->nonsence!
-bdn kita xbole produce susu yg cukup utk baby..tak mcm org lain..--> Allah kan Maha Adil,kalau org lain bole,knp tidak kita??
-breast sakit xbole direct bf-->consult dgn pakar laktasi dulu sblm percaya dakyah2 org yg xde ilmu bab bf
-demam xbole bf-->no such thing
-tak bole makan pedas,nnti bb sakit perut-->huh?? tpt process susu mana sama dgn tpt process mkanan..yg nih mommy pernah tanya kat doktor,she said no prob at all.
oleh sebab itu,i personally ingin menjadi pendorong kepada bakal2 ibu,ataupun ibu2 diluar sana utk memberikan yg terbaik utk cahaya mata mereka.harapan mommy,dengan berbekalkan sedikit ilmu pengetahuan dan pengalaman mommy yg tidak seberapa ini, dapat menyuntik semangat dlm jiwa ibu2 yg lain utk tidak berputus asa dlm perjalanan menyusukan anak2 meraka.insyaAllah,kalau boleh selama 2tahun seperti yg disarankan dlm islam.mmg ada pahit,sakit,pedih dan sedikit tekanan tapi kalau kita berjaya melalui proses melahirkan anak ke dunia ini..yg dikatakan sakit yg paling sakit dlm dunia..tidak mustahil kita juga punya kekuatan utk berjaya dlm bf. yg penting usaha,doa dan tawakkal... if u have anything in mind,don't hesitate to ask..insyaAllah,yg mana mampu,i'll help...yoshh!! gambarou!
ok laa..penat dah bebel... renung2 kan la yer..mana yg baik dtg dr Allah,dan yg buruk itu dtg dr kelemahan mommy sbg hamba yg kerdil..wallahualam
eh..xtau la nk letak gmbr apa kat sini.. tgk gmbr gigi rayyan yg terbaru nak??
tadaaa...
rayyan dah ada 6batang gigi..and satu geraham baru nk tumbuh.belah kanan..dah nmpk sikit
UPDATE! (5th feb 2009)
advantages i discover from breastfeeding Rayyan
dapat maintain berat badan- from my experience, ini yg paling obvious sekali.berat pre-pregnancy was 45kg.paling berat waktu pregnancy 56~58kg camtu.. lps bersalin berat jatuh sampai 43kg.. lps setahun 6bulan umur rayyan baru la berat nih balik semula ke pre-pregnancy weigh..45~46kg..maybe sbb dah kurang menyusukan rayyan.tp bf mmg dikatakan mampu membakar lemak2.sbb tu selera mommy nih pon kadang2 luar biasa..sama mcm masa pregnant.kerap mkn..kalah daddy.ehehe..eh,tp daddy tu jaga badan..
baby kurang dapat sakit-ini berdasarkan pengalaman kawan2 yg lain.biasanyer baby yg minum fm nih senang dijangkiti selsema,batuk etc..alhamdulillah,rayyan ni kalau mommy n daddy or anyone dlm rumah demam or selsema..tak jangkit kat dia... walaupun kadang2 mommy dia yg selalu selsema nih,dok bf dia sambil lap2 hidung yg berair tu..dia heiki(relaks) jer...sgt2 bersyukur. hopefully,lps nih pon rayyan kekal sihat dan cerdas!
mengeratkan lagi bond antara ibu dan anak-ini mmg tak nampak dgn mata kasar.tp sebagai ibu kita bole rasa..contohnyer,walaupun rayyan nih lebih byk spend masa waktu siang dgn maid kat rumah..n mmg manja dgn maid..tp dgn mommy dia juga dia nk kalau mommy dia ada dpn mata.kemudian,perasaan yg ibu2 dapat rasakan waktu memeluk anak semasa bf dan merenung ke dalam wajah anak yg leka dipangkuan kita sangat2 indah.apatah lagi,rasa gembira kerana dpt mengenyangkan anak dan burpkan dia hasil dr usaha kita sendiri..indescribable! (bukan niat nk kata baby yg minum fm kurang bond dgn mak dia yer..ini dr pengamatan diri mommy sendiri) kalau nk tau beza antara anak yg bf dgn yg minum fm,kena tanya details pada org yg pernah lalui dua2 situasi..
mengajar mommy supaya lebih cekal dlm melalui hidup sbg ibu-seperti yg mommy ceritakan dlm entry di atas..mmg byk dugaan utk capai matlamat bf secara eksklusif.dah la ini pertama kali kita melalui pengalaman sbg ibu,ditambah dgn anasir2 luar yg buat kita goyah dgn pendirian sendiri..tp mommy tegar! bila dah lepas semua2 tu,rasa kita lebih matang..nama pon dah jadi mak..kena la lebih kuat!
jimat duit daripada beli susu formula-hmm,kira jer laa..kalau satu tin dlm rm50++,xsure satu tin tu bole tahan berapa lama sbb xpernah guna..sebulan tahan kot.kata la sebulan kan..50x12=rm600.. kalau beli pam mcm avent manual tu dlm rm400..skg nih dah setahun 6bulan masih setia menemani mommy..rasanyer mampu bertahan sampai 2thn tanpa perlu ganti sparepart apa2 lagi.. itu kalau setin tahan sebulan~
tak payah angkut tin susu+botol susu+air panas waktu outing-kalau keluar yg berjam2 tu,selalu mommy perhati anak2 yg minum fm nih,mak dia nyer luggage lebih sket.no need to highlight what they bring along sbb mommy pon xpasti sgt.tp kalau bf,benda yg selalu mommy angkut waktu kita outing ialah, towel kecik 2helai,baju spare sepasang,pampers 3helai,bip sehelai..tu jer.n muat dlm satu bag mcm bag yg mommy galas dlm gmbr kat atas tu..sangat compact n mudah.ini utk outing mcm gi keluar yg sehari..kalau balik kg lain cerita la pulak..
anytime anywhere bole jer nk bg bf-so far,xpernah mengalami masalh nk bf in public.mommy pon kena la pandai cari port yg sesuai..dlm kereta la paling comfortable,selak jer..rayyan senang je lena.bila dia dah kenyang,waktu jalan2 tu dia kurang la minta menyusu.plus,xpayah pk nk cari air panas bagai..suhu bm pon dah sesuai dgn baby..yerla,keluar dr badan mak dia terus masuk bdn baby..so,susu tu berada dlm keadaan suhu badan.just nice!
maybe ada lagi kebaikan from bf yg mommy tak terfikir skg nih.kalau ada yg nak menokok tambah sila laa..u're always welcome.sgt happy bila dapat membantu kawan2 yg perlukan sokongan.but again,this is just my ideas based on my very own poor experience.up to you to judge wether it is acceptable from your point of u or not.
jyaa~ gambaroune!
